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Rock and Roll, the fantasy

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Rock and Roll Fantasy, was fun to write because, as the title indicates, its a fantasy. I had a good time creating one girl's daydream as she imagined what could happen if she accidently got on the wrong boat and two rock stars--one she just happened to have a long time crush on--also happened to be on the boat.  Excerpt Karrie and her friends had decided this was going to be a quiet, girls-only weekend. She rested her forearms on the rail and typed in a text to Amy, but before she could hit send, someone bumped her elbow. "No signal out here." Karrie turned, coming face to face with the blond. He was a lot cuter up close. Bright blue eyes and scruffy stubble outlining his jaw. Yummy. "It’s not going to do you much good," he said, pointing to her phone, his long fingers reminding Karrie of one of those fantasies she'd had. Something about a guy. Someone famous. A daydream was from a long time ago and involved a crowded dark hallway, loud rock music thumping,...

Too hot to publish, that's what I was told. Make Me Blush

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I’m not good at following directions. I know this about myself. So as soon as someone tells me not to do something, or that something can’t, or shouldn’t, be done, that’s pretty much an engraved RSVP ASAP invitation to me. When that inability to do what I’m told and my insatiable curiosity intersect all kinds of wild things happen. In this case, the thing is, Make Me Blush, a warm-your-winter-up-read anthology of stories I’ve been told were too sexy for publication. Here’s something I know: women like to read stories about dedicated partners in sexually-charged situations. In my other life, I teach freshman composition. We write essays, the standard sort that college students have been writing for years. Thesis statements, MLA formatting, research. All the usual. One place where I get to mix things up is in the prompts. A while back I was wondering what my students thought of the 50 Shades phenomena, so I included a prompt about the widespread popularity of the series. The prompt e...

Are you ready to go green?

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Kitten Play 101: Pet Me, Love Me-I'm Your Kitten

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Cute furry ears, long beautiful tail, licking from bowls of milk, scratching, biting and being naughty–no, I’m not talking about the little creature you just adopted from the animal shelter. I’m talking about BDSM kitten play. The kitten is the sub, the master or owner the Dom. The kitten acts as you’d imagine: biting, crawling, meowing. The owner cares for the little one by petting and caressing, but also by punishing for misbehavior. What’s the special draw? Kittens thrive on being cared for, rewarded and punished, but they also thrive on belonging and commitment. The pet and owner participate in a collaring ceremony that binds the two together as well as establishes the boundaries, privileges and responsibilities of the relationship. As with any good relationship, the two care for each other physically as well as emotionally. As for the boundaries, those are similar to ones outlined in many BDSM relationships, with the addition of elements regarding the pet aspects. H...

My bag. What's yours?

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My grandmother wore kitten heels, twin sets that she knitted herself and I wanted to be just like her. The first purse I remember is her painted basket. It was made of brown “straps” and painted with colorful buildings.    I’d stare at the bright buildings and wonder who lived in them. What were their lives about? A single penny was glued to the fliptop lid. I thought it was completely wonderful and filled with grownup lady secrets. All these years, I still don’t know everything that was kept inside it. Here are the things I’m certain were inside: filterless Camels, a lighter, and reading glasses. The first purse I owned was a gift. It was yellow plastic, covered with flowers, and had a long shoulder strap. I have no idea what I kept inside it, but I do remember feeling like a grownup lady with it hanging from my shoulder. The first purse I bought was a brown leather Coach bag. It was heavy and plain but I loved it. This was back before discount malls, so it was ...

Let’s (Not) Have a 3-Way with My Hot Friend

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Imagine a man and woman, a committed couple, cozy in each other’s arms. They’re in front of a fireplace, stretched across a soft rug and covered by plaid blanket A half empty bottle of red wine is within reach. Everything is bliss. Until he asks, “Have you ever thought about us doing it with ______.”   No, blank isn’t Charlie Hunnam or Chris Hemsworth. It’s her friend. The hot one with the perfect legs, curvy ass and Instagram ready smile. Just like that, the sweetness of the moment is gone, and she’s left with an uncertain queasy sensation that starts in her stomach and spreads to her heart. Never mind what happens to her mind. She can’t decide which of her emotions to deal with first. Anger? Hurt? Disgust? Humiliation? Imagine she says no. But, because she’s reeling from that freshly-delivered nasty basket of emotions, she replies gently, as though she’s hoping that by speaking softly the whole matter will float up the chimney, drifting out into the starry night sky. ...

Too sexy for publication: that's what they told me.

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I’m not good at following directions. I know this about myself. So as soon as someone tells me not to do something, or that something can’t, or shouldn’t, be done, that’s pretty much an engraved RSVP ASAP invitation to me. When that inability to do what I’m told and my insatiable curiosity intersect all kinds of wild things happen. In this case, the thing is my new release, Make Me Blush, a beach-read anthology of stories I’ve been told were too sexy for publication. Here’s something I know: women like to read stories about dedicated partners in sexually-charged situations. In my other life, I teach freshman composition at a college. We write essays, the standard sort that college students have been writing for years. Thesis statements, MLA formatting, research. All the usual stuff. One place where I get to mix things up is in the prompts. A while back I was wondering what my students thought of the 50 Shades phenomena, so I included a prompt about the widespread popula...

Giant Girls and the Men Who Want Them: Macrophilia, Fetish 101

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According to Playboy and the recent Pornhub annual report, giantess women are the new big thing in fantasyland. The demand for macrophiliac images, videos, and stories are on the rise and show no sign of slowing.   In case you’re not one of those typing in “giant woman porn” and hitting search, a macrogynophile is someone, usually a man, who is sexually attracted to a giant person, usually a woman. The word macrophilia translates to “lover of large.” The largeness is typically in height. Even though new giantess sites are now popping up all over the internet this passion isn’t new. Are you familiar with the ’58 movie, Attack of the 50 Foot Woman ? You know the one about the beautiful woman who’s turned into a vengeful magnificent giant after encountering some aliens? Oddly sexy, right? How about the adventures of Tom Thumb--I mean the original from the Brothers Grimm. Weirdly intriguing. Men who long for giant woman ...

Spring is in the air...a basic primer on the female orgasm

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Something you already know: the female orgasm is more (much more) complex than the male counterpart. See? You did already know that. Here are some things you may not. While men reach orgasm more quickly and frequently, 90% of the time as compared to the woman’s 25%, the male orgasm is usually shorter, reportedly less intense and requires a longer recovery time. Quick facts: 26-32, estimated peak age for a woman’s sexuality, but equal amounts of research show sexual satisfaction is more connected to overall life satisfaction. relaxation, studies shows its single most important element in regard to reaching bliss. 15-40 minutes, that’s the average length of time it takes for a woman to orgasm. women are much more likely to need a “reset” due to distraction or unexpected position changes during those 15-40 minutes. muscular contraction in the lower abdomen precedes the orgasm and can be used by a lover to determine whether a technique is getting the desired results. the labi...

Why don't you? The appeal of Fifty Shades of Grey

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“Why don’t you write something like   Fifty Shades of Grey ?” We romance writers get asked this question by friends and family. I have to admit this question puzzles me. Each time I’m asked I wonder: Do you mean, why don’t I write something about two people seeking love and connection? Do you mean, why don’t I write something erotic? Do you mean, why don’t I write something that pushes the boundaries of relationships? I only wonder these things because me asking them aloud would draw attention to the fact that the person asking the question hasn’t read any of my books. Of course, I don’t care whether or not the person has read my stuff but …well, I don’t want to make things awkward by pointing that out.   Besides, as a writer, here’s the question that makes the most sense to me: Do you mean why don’t I write something that sells millions of copies and creates just as many devoted readers and fans? That one I don’t have an answe...

Bondage Rope Starter Guide: the busy woman’s cheat sheet on what to get to get what you want.

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Thinking about buying some bondage rope? If you are, you won’t be alone this weekend. First time thinking about buying rope? Again, you won’t be alone this weekend. Headed to the hardware store because you want that rope - in - a - hurry? Sounds good. But you may want to think about what’s going to work best for you ahead of time. You know, to avoid that awkward moment when the helpful salesperson asks you what type you want then, in attempt to assist you better, asks you what you want it for. See what I mean? There are three things to consider.   Fiber Think of fiber as the rope’s texture and appearance. It’s what the rope is made from, so fiber determines the look, texture, pliability, smell, and overall aesthetic. The four most common fibers used in bondage are hemp, jute, nylon and MFP. Hemp Rope Hemp  Thanks to the fact that its natural, hemp offers great smell and texture. It’s soft but strong. It ‘breathes’ and bends, tucking itself into the conto...

The challenge of making cuckolding romantic, Salvage out now

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How does a romance writer go about creating a "cheating" storyline that is both romantic and erotic? Most mainstream romance readers shy away from "cheating" stories. This is with good reason; the idea of a married person having sex with someone other than their spouse goes against much of what we think of as romantic and committed and honest. Another thing about romance readers, they're always on the lookout for something fresh and intriguing. Its the second point that promoted me to dip my pink-painted writer toes into the cuckold pond. I've done a couple posts on this unique lifestyle . Cuckolding: What you may not know and Cuckolding: the femdom lifestyle . My desire in writing these stories was to embrace elements of the unusual practice while focusing on the romance. I wanted to assure the reader that the husband and wife are fully committed to one and other in all the ways that matter. It's been an exciting challenge, creating these t...

Cuckolding: the femdom lifestyle

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A married woman having sex with a man who isn’t her husband? Yes. A married woman having sex with a man who isn’t her husband--and he arranges it? Yes. And--he watches it? And likes it? Yep. About two years ago,   I wrote a Fetish 101 post on cuckolding . I offered up the basics: a cuckold marriage is one in which the husband selects men for his wife to have sex with. As with all sexual preferences, there are variations. The husband may or may not watch the couple having sex. He may or may not participate. There are commonalities. Most often: The husband is the one who first suggests they adopt the lifestyle. The couple has been married for ten or more years and consider their marriage a happy, successful one. The couple hides their choice because mainstream society has a harsh, negative view of this lifestyle. It’s this last point that intrigues me. Ever since I began writing cuckold stories, I have found that many people, even those who consider themselves accepting a...