Fetish 101: Erotic Humiliation
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Erotic humiliation can take many forms; verbal, such as
scolding or name calling; animal play, making the submission eat or drink from
pet bowls; erotic objectification, requiring the submissive is used as
furniture, or any form of sexual
embarrassment. Obviously, the spectrum is vast but the basics are pretty
simple: it’s any time a consensual person is turned on by being demeaned or
demeaning others.
Typically the person being humiliated is in a submissive role, the person administering the scolding or other embarrassment in dominant. However, it is important to note that note all BDSM relationships have humiliation as an element and those that do are likely to consider it edgeplay and thus use a safeword and extensive advance negotiations.
Typically the person being humiliated is in a submissive role, the person administering the scolding or other embarrassment in dominant. However, it is important to note that note all BDSM relationships have humiliation as an element and those that do are likely to consider it edgeplay and thus use a safeword and extensive advance negotiations.
The range of possibilities for humiliation is as vast as the
possibilities so the key to successful humiliation is to know what a specific
individual finds offensive. Practitioners of erotic humiliation emphasize the
that a high level of trust and communication will enhance the overall
experience. Those who are being humiliated seek pain, not injury, and so the
person administering the humiliation must be both skilled and attuned to the
submissive’s individual needs. A person being forced to call another ‘Sir’ or
‘Madam’ may find that objectionable, and thus humiliating, while another may
not. A person who enjoys ponyplay will most likely not be humiliated by being
told to trot around a room while others watch.
The theories that seek to explain why erotic humiliation
works focus on the physiological and emotional responses to humiliation. The
area of the brain that responds to emotional pain, including humiliation, is
the same as the one that responds to physical pain. Thus, humiliation is a very
strong emotional trigger. That emotional trigger requires a significant amount
of mental manipulation as the person being humiliated finds a way to “deal with
it.” One method of “dealing with it,” or managing the emotional pain, is to
disassociate, to set aside ones normal identity. This break from identity leads
to a temporary loss of self-awareness, loss of focus on oneself as seen by
others and ultimately relaxation. This combination naturally enhances sexual
pleasure. And so, when a person is humiliated to the point of loss of
self-awareness, and physical pleasure is introduced, the likelihood of ultimate
sexual release and satisfaction is achieved.
Recent research emphasizes that those who participate in
masochism are “normal” and that the practice may be a response to the
“overgrown selfhood of modern Western society.” That is, humiliation play is a
healthy and productive way to deal with everyday stress because it allows the
person being humiliated to set everyday identity and experience sexual pleasure
in a pure form.
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